To Love or Not to Love, that is the real question.
It has been many months since my last post, to which I contribute many factors to my lack of writing;
A new job,
A second new job,
And finding the love of my life (besides Jesus of course).
All within the past year.
God bringing this man into my life has been the biggest blessing ever.
It has taught me so much; not only about myself, but also about my walk with God.
It has filled me with an array of emotions, both good and bad.
Love, joy, sadness, anger, frustration, goosebumps, thankfulness, appreciation…
It has brought forth difficulties; in having to deal with past emotions & pain,
learning to understand the difference between male and female natures,
understanding the differences in love languages,
needs, wants, desires, and styles of communication.
And through it all, it has taught me about true love.
True love is not a feeling, but instead, a choice.
True love is not only a choice, but a command.
God gives us this command in Matthew 5:44:
“I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you…”
One could write a novel on love, for it too great to explain in one blog.
God himself is love, and who can explain God in a matter of seconds?
It is above all things, more than we can ever understand.
But one thing we can be sure of is that God expects his followers to LOVE.
We see it throughout the whole entire bible, but here are a few verses worth mentioning…
“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.” 1 John 4:7-8
“And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.” 1 Corin. 13:13
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8
For me, it was not in those moments of fun and happiness that I came to the realization of what it truly means to “love”. The nice walks in the park under the sun, the holding of hands and kisses goodnight, the sweet good morning messages and piggy back rides; these are not the things that ought to be evident for the existence of true love to be present. Instead these are merely examples of the physical aspect that the feeling of love can produce. These things can be evident with or without true love, this I am sure.
But instead it was in those moments of deep sorrow, those moments of hardship that showed me what love was all about. That love cares, through thick and thin. That love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
It was in those moments that I thought I was unworthy to be loved,
that love reminded me that I am worthy; I am beautiful, cared about, and valued.
It was in those moments of anger, that I did things that I thought would be unforgivable,
that love forgave.
It was in those moments of urgency and selfishness, that love waited and was selfless.
It was in those moments of physical illness and emotional pain, that love provided comfort and peace.
It was in those moments of yelling and crying, that love understood and provided a shoulder to cry on.
It was in those moments of frusteration , that love still offered a hug.
Love never fails.
Now re-read the last 10 lines about love, and insert “God” where you see the word “love”;
for God is love.
Now do it again saying your name where it says “love”;
for we are called to be like God.
I will conclude with saying, true love is more than a feeling. It is an action. A choice. I challenge us all to receive the love that God offers us, and let us show it onto those we meet. Not only our family and friends, but also to those “difficult people” in our lives; ones we would call our enemies.
“For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same? And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so? Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.” Matthew 5:45-48
**Special credit to the man in my life who has been a wonderful example of what true love is. I am thankful for all the good times and hard times. For it was during those times of tribulations and trials that true love is seen the most. I thank the Lord for the lessons he has taught me, and the lessons to come. My ears are open to hear, let them hear! Our GOD is the best teacher and he uses each situation in our lives as a lesson for us, we must be still and listen to what he is saying. Cut out all distractions so we can discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God. **